Lately I have seen (and perhaps you have too) a lot of threads and posts online where a white person is called out on their ignorance or bias by someone else….and time and time again, I’ve witnessed that rather than accepting the reflection, the person fires back with “are you calling me racist?…
Getting intimate with someone involves also getting intimate with their wounds, their fears, insecurities, and triggers. Learning day by day how a new love interest operates and handles life is a learning - and loving - curve. Can you handle what comes up for them gracefully? Do you become irritated or resentful when their issues arise? Can you stay warm towards them even when they aren’t at their best?