There is a misconception held in many circles, especially, I find, in some new age spiritual circles: when you find the right partner, everything will become smooth and easy. I work with so many well-meaning, aware people who tend to idealize partnership and therefore find a lot of frustration and disappointment with handling the ups […]
A Valentine’s to Remember
This Valentine’s day, Mars and Venus, the two strongest archetypes of love and relationship, will be tightly together in the sky. A Venus and Mars conjunction always points to lots of passion. However this exact conjunction, where they are literally sharing the same degree, actually makes the planets feel a little too close for comfort in a phenomenon called ‘Planetary War.’
Holding Authentic Boundaries in a Changing World
When we think about creating good boundaries, most of us have an idea that “strong” boundaries are fixed boundaries – this idea is woven into the mainstream culture, a sense that who we are is mostly static and so things that we like stay that way, things that we don’t like stay that way. But this type of boundary can become stale and flat over time, a rote answer to life instead of a fluid, flexible, living relationship with who we are, what life means to us, where we fit in the world in a given moment.
Transcending Competition in Favor of Love
Serpents shed their skin and so are also a sign of metamorphosis. If we can use our skills of witnessing/detachment, this time period is actually very potent for transformation of how we give and receive love. We can go through a kind of rebirth within our relationships right now.
Unmasked
Getting intimate with someone involves also getting intimate with their wounds, their fears, insecurities, and triggers. Learning day by day how a new love interest operates and handles life is a learning – and loving – curve. Can you handle what comes up for them gracefully? Do you become irritated or resentful when their issues arise? Can you stay warm towards them even when they aren’t at their best?
Intimacy is a Living Experience
Yet if you hold a deeper intention for yourself in relationship, if you want to create something that is real, alive, and honest with a partner, looking at your expectations and how you use them to hold yourself apart is so important.